Another post about boys? Yes. Yes, I'm doing it.
Ever since I got back from India I've been kind of boy crazy. Like I really just want to be in a relationship and have a guy in my life and that's such backwards thinking. Honestly I should be focusing on my classes and my Sophomore year of college, but you know, I got stuck with that overthinking mind. Anyways, since I can't change what my mind decides to think about, I wanted to share a list of some physical and personality traits that I think would be ideal in a partner. Obviously this is my personal opinion, and not everything in this is set in stone. I made this list in February of 2017 and I just want to share it with you all. I hope you enjoy!
1. Is Indian (speaks fluent Hindi and will travel to India with me)
I feel like this is really important to me because when you're with someone from a similar background it just makes things easier in terms of family, beliefs, etc. My culture is such a huge part of who I am and I want someone who appreciates and understands it the same way I do. I'm not saying I'm opposed to dating anyone else from another background. It's just a preference. Who knows, maybe I'll fall in love with someone completely different than me? Anything could happen.
2. Believes in Gods and would go to the temple with me
This is another personal preference. I go to the temple with my mom as much as I can and celebrate religious Holidays and Gods. Having someone who believes in this and would be willing to go with me would just make it more special. It wouldn't be just a bond in a physical, emotional way, but also religiously. Again, this isn't bashing any other religion. I think whatever someone believes or doesn't believe is completely up to them.
3. Likes reading (or other intellectual activities)
If you guys know me, I absolutely love reading. I want to have a home with a personal library Beauty and the Beast style. It would be nice if my significant other also liked to do that. I wouldn't really mind if they didn't, but its' nice to have common interests. Or at least someone who is passionate about something else. I would be willing to learn more about that.
4. Would be able to talk to me for hours on end about small things to why the universe exists
So I'm kind of a shy and quiet person when you first meet me. I'm kind of trying to work on that. But at the end of the day I love talking to people. Having conversations that start somewhere and go somewhere completely different just intrigues me. I would like to think I'm an intellectual person so being able to talk with someone and get to know their thoughts I think is just a really cool experience.
5. Would tease me like my cousins do
For those of you who don't know, I've mentioned my cousin a few times. He's a year older than me, in Medical School, and literally one of my favorite people ever. He's really chill and funny and we're basically best friends. In terms of my personality I'm extremely playful and I like to joke around a lot. I also really like being teased and just knowing that not all situations are serious. I want a bond with someone that feels comfortable being my friend first.
6. Knows how to cook
Honestly, this would just be nice. Like a bonus. I'm learning how to cook now, and hopefully I'll be good at it in the future, but like just in case not, someone in the relationship should know how to cook right? Haha. My family would be highly impressed.
7. Is respectful towards everyone, especially my parents
Nothing more to say about that.
8. Be able to deal with my anxiety, mood shifts, and overthinking mind (Is patient)
I have a lot of things going on in my mind a lot so I feel like if my partner isn't patient it might be hard for them to be let in and understand me. I don't mind opening up about things, but it can be a lot to take in. I don't know. I feel like patience is just a really good trait to have.
9. Doesn't smoke, drink excessively, or do drugs
This is just something I can't really deal with. It's kind of a deal breaker. Its' obviously a personal choice. I know plenty of people who dabble in these things, but for the person I'm dating I don't think I'd be able to work with it. I hate smoking for personal reasons. Drinking, I don't mind too much. As long as he knows his limits and doesn't do anything stupid when he's drunk. Drugs are just a huge no. That's the end of that.
10. Someone my sister approves of an gets along with
My sister is my #1 best friend and she has really high standards. I just want to know that the two really important people in my life get along because I would never pick one over the other. Plus, if she likes him, they can hang out and do fun things together too. She's basically my daughter anyways, lol.
11. Would be a good father figure to my children
I want my kids to look up to whoever I'm with and want to have the same kind of relationship we do that's full of love, respect, appreciation, etc.
12. Listens to me even though I tent to ramble and jump topics
I have this really weird thing I do when I get really excited about something I'm talking about, I trip over my words and kind of jump from topics really fast because apparently I think time is running out and all my words just have to be on the table. Lol. I'm weird like that. So someone who's patient and doesn't mind weird thinks like that would be ideal, haha. Yeah. I'm never going to find a boyfriend.
13. Someone who makes me comfortable and smiley when I talk
I know. I can want a lot of cheezy things sometimes. I'm somewhere between a hopeless romantic and a realist. Let me tell you. It's hard.
14. Someone who is taller than me (5'11 or taller?)
This is something not set in stone, however, I just think it would be so awkward to date someone shorter than me. It might seem superficial, but I don't know why in my head I can't really get over it. I'm 5' 7'' which I think is a pretty good, average height. It would also be nice to be able to wear heels sometimes. Ya know? And the pictures...Let's move on.
15. Someone who meets me halfway and appreciates me
I think communication is the key in any relationship, but besides that I think relationships are meant for two people who are equally participating. There should be a mutual respect and understanding that both individuals want this relationship to work so they're putting their effort in before asking anything of the other person.
Obviously in life you don't need to make a list of things like this, but you should know your own beliefs and your self worth to know that you deserve an amazing guy or girl. You shouldn't just date someone for the sake of being with someone. It's good to have some standards and not settle for anything less than you deserve. At the same time, you and your partner both need to be flexible and be able to compromise on situations.
I hope you guys enjoyed this post! Let me know in the comments some of the things you look for in an ideal partner. Until next time.
Stay young, stay beautiful, and keep spreading love.
~Shivani